Letting my secret out of the bag….

I have a secret, one I've felt ashamed of, frustrated with, downright embarrassed about. It's not that I wouldn't have told you if you'd asked directly.  It's not that I haven't told anyone. Actually, I've been open with plenty of people. But it's something I'm careful about.  I've only ever told people I'm sure I [...]

By | May 21st, 2017|

My Inner Terrible Me Wants Me To Give Up

It's been a brutal couple of weeks, creatively speaking. The gap between the beauty I can see in my mind and what I am able to get out on paper feels like the Grand Freakn' Canyon. I sit at my manuscript diligently writing and rewriting feeling more and more hopeless as I delete one stodgy [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Death Changes Everything

If you've been following me for a while you'll know that my mother has been ill. She died back in June. It changed everything. I don't miss her, or wish she had lived longer. I feel instead a deep sense of relief. Her disease stole from her the very essence of humanity and she was [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Menopause & Superheros

I'm 45. 46 in June. And things are happening. I'm crankier, angrier, flying off the handle at a heart beat, more tired in the mornings. I've less energy and I'm struggling to do stuff that used to come easy (like letting shit go, being all zen about whatever the hell is going on). My hormones, [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Finding Your Purpose ? Please Stop

There is this thing about Purpose that I don't like and I don't think you should either. If you've been trying to find yours or worried that you don't know what it is, I'm here to tell you to breathe out, it's okay, you can stop right now. Looking for Purpose is a way to [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

I’m A Person Just Like You

We have a saying in our family that goes: they should be more like me! Said, of course, with energy and emotion and a good deal of finger pointing. I like to use this saying when I'm getting too serious. It's particularly useful at times when I start to believe someone else really should be [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Like Your Body, Or Love Your Body?

It's so much easier to love your body when it looks good, isn't it? I hear this sentiment all the time. I get it. I do. Knowing you look good in a bikini, drives up self-esteem. It's easier to get dressed in the morning when everything fits well. There is all manner of things you [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Your Body Is More Powerful Than You Think

There is this overwhelmingly common understanding that if we want to lose weight we need to sort out our diet. We need to get some willpower going and eat better. I want to talk about this. It's such a pervasive premise you will find it in the medical industry, in the fitness one, even alternative [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Wishing It Were Different

It has just smacked me in the face. There is this thing I've been dealing with that's been keeping me up at night, winding my nerves to breaking point, giving me permission to doubt my worth as a parent. And then reading this, this morning, I burst out laughing. You guys. I was wishing my [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|

Blame & Responsibility

This weekend I got sunburned. Like I don't know about the dangers of sunburn. Like I wasn't offered sunscreen at the start of the walk (thanks Denise for your loving gesture) and like I didn't slap it on my face. I thought, meh, my arms and neck will be fine. I'm sort of olive brown [...]

By | May 20th, 2017|