Full disclosure. I have done a lot of ‘car eating’ in my time, feeling ashamed, convinced I was addicted to food, wondering why I’d got such a bum deal in the body department.
For most of my life I believed the answer to my food problem was threefold:
1 – finding the right foods to avoid
2 – uncovering my mindset blocks to ‘weight-loss’
3 – and creating the right habits.
If I could just get those three lined up and executed, I’d have the body, I’d have peace of mind and it would all become easy.
That never worked out. Not because something was wrong with me, but because getting those things lined up doesn’t lead to what we’ve all been told they do.
The lie is that if we follow certain rules (foods to avoid, habits to form etc) we will end up with a ‘healthy’ body (aka slim body).
The belief being: once you get to that ‘healthy’ body you’ll feel amazing, look amazing and you can stop worrying about how you look and what you eat.
The problem is, even if we get to that mythical body, our minds are overly focused on food, we’re miserable, we’re terrified it won’t last and our bodies are so sick of the deprivation they make us do shit we are ashamed of – like eating on auto-pilot in the car, hoping no one sees us…
So what can we do instead?
There is lots to be done. But I want to make it super clear. To get from that horrible space to being a ‘normal’ eater means taking a road less traveled.
It’s a road most people aren’t ready for. Because… it’s challenging. It requires being willing to zig when others insist zagging is the answer. It necessitates open-mindedness and courage and letting go of our deep cultural belief that smaller bodies are better than bigger ones.
But…if you are ready to dare greatly, the pot of gold waiting is remarkable.
- Being the same weight year in year out
- Occasionally forgetting to eat (#truestory)
- Raising your children to shun unhelpful cultural messages
- Caring for your body because you respect it
- More energy and aliveness than you’ve had in a long time
- Taking delight in what you eat without feeling guilty or ashamed.
If you’re keen to learn more about this road less traveled, you can book a 30 min free coaching session here to learn more and see if I help you go from where you are to where you want to be.
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