Mama Bears – I have hard stuff to share today. Last week was brutal. So much goodness in my life – my kids, my work, my friends, the apple tree outside my office window, and yet – a big stinky turd was hurled at me and it’s taken everything I’ve got to stay present and keep showing up for you.
But that’s where life gets good right? Feeling and dealing and staying true to our values in the face of shit storms and big emotions.
You see, I was accused of being a fraud. Of trying to pretend I’m something I’m not. It was suggested to me that I had no business talking about bodies and food and media and weight and how the hell we talk to our kids so their minds don’t go west when it comes feeling okay in their skin…
Because TA DA – I don’t have the ‘appropriate’ qualifications. I’m not a registered dietitian so I should keep my trap shut.
And al this from someone I had deep respect for. Someone I had referred people to. I had no idea she was so deeply entrenched in the idea that only dietitians should give advice when it comes to creating a world where body shame doesn’t exist.
But it did leave me wondering – do people other than her assume I’m a dietitian? Is that something I need to clear up with you as well as her?
Please, if you are at all confused about my qualifications, let me straighten it out for you: I have a post-graduate degree in Leisure Theory (yes, indeed, that is an actual thing). I wrote a thesis called: Playing with Beauty: How social expectations of appearance effect athletic performance.
And I have lived through a life-sucking eating disorder, working intensely to understand why I got it in the first place and what kinds of thing lead to long term healing.
Plus, I’m a mum of two darlings who I’ll give my right eye (I actually would give an eye, I’m not being dramatic) to avoid experiencing the body shame I lived through.
I consider my role as a Family Body Confidence Consultant as primarily educational.
I help mamas find the words to talk about difficult topics like weight and fat and bullying so kids don’t get a screwed up body image.
I refer to therapists, professionals, and dietitians when appropriate. I help parents find professionals who take body stigma seriously and always treat a person with deep respect and individualised care.
I help mamas (and papas) bust myths about food and bodies so they are empowered to talk and act in ways that will have a positive effect on body image.
I make bullying easier to talk about. And easier to do something about.
In other words, I’m all about language and conversations, what to say and what to do about all things bodies.
I’m always learning (I read 50+ books a year) and always open to doing things better. I’m curious and open and if you feel I have misled you in any way, please let me know. Your opinion is important to me.
And…even more importantly, if you, dear one, have had shit thrown at you from left field, I’m standing right here with to you. I get it. In this world of more and more disconnection, I’m all about forging connections that lead to less isolation and less shame.
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