You don’t have to look far to find things to feel ‘right’ about. Your take on the vaccination debate. Your opinion about school uniforms, or curriculum, or what kind of job the POTUS is doing. You are right, and the others who don’t think the same are wrong.

This right and wrong thing has us all scrambling to turn up the volume on ‘facts’. See mine, hear my argument, if you don’t agree now, you are a douche who doesn’t know your arse from the hole in your face. And so it goes on.

But humans don’t care about facts. Or at least we don’t care about facts nearly as much as we do about being heard, being understood, being known.

If you had lived the exact same life as the one you are arguing with – you might just think the way they think, see the world the way they see it – and your set of ‘facts’ might look very different.

What’s more, once the one you are fighting against feels known, heard, understood, they could well see your facts in a different light.

From this perspective, suddenly a space for both move forward together might magically appear.

Here’s the best bit. The more you know, listen and get others, the more you will be known yourself.